Making My Own Decisions

Little Caleb, four, upon being told he needed to do something, said to Momma, “But I want to make my own decisions.”

“I know,” said Momma. “And you can make your own decisions. You get to decide what flavour of ice cream you want and which shirt you are putting on today, don’t you?”

“Well, yes,” said Caleb. “But I want to decide what I want to do or don’t want to do too.”

“I know you do,” said Momma. “We all want to make our own decisions. It makes us feel like we are in charge, doesn’t it?”

“Yeah, and I want to make my own decisions and be in charge,” Caleb pouted.

Momma smiled. “I know you do, son. You want to be a big strong boy in charge, don’t you?”


“Well,” said Momma, “Daddy and I will let you be in charge of things you are capable of being in charge of, like your favourite colours and when you need to go potty or which toys you want to play with, but in other things that we are more learned in and know what is best for you, we will be in charge of those things for now, ok?”

“Ok,” Caleb said, still dismayed at the thought of not being able to make all the decisions.

Momma said to her son, “Caleb, I promise that when you are capable of being responsible for the other decisions too, we will let you make those decisions then. You don’t want to decide what’s for dinner or what bills to pay or when to go to the store and those decisions, do you?”

“Well, um, nooooo.”

“And you trust Daddy and Momma to take care of you and teach you, don’t you?”


“Well, then, you will have to just let us take care of you and teach you what you need to know when, and it is your responsibility to do what Momma and Daddy tell you. That is your responsibility, son. It is our responsibility to teach you these things, and it is your responsibility to learn them and to do them. If you will do that, you will become a man who is able to make good decisions, and we won’t have to continue to make them for you. Then you will rely on Yah to tell you what he has for you, and you will make the right decisions to follow him in all his ways, and your life will be the best it can be.”

Caleb smiled. He had no more questions, and no more replies to Momma. Certainly he had a lot more to learn, but for now, he understood that one day he would get to make more decisions and for now, he would be happy making the ones that he could make for himself.

Proverbs 1
7 The fear of יהוה is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline. 8 My son, heed the discipline of your father, and do not abandon the teaching of your mother; 9 they will be a garland to grace your head, a medal of honor for your neck.

Shalom and blessings to you~

Mrs. Dixon

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Mrs. Jacque Dixon and her husband, Matt, train their nine children up in Yahveh’s narrow way, home schooling on their small homestead in Indiana. She is co-owner and Manager of Gleaning the Harvest, a mission founded by the Dixons, presenting widowed/single mother home school families to Yahweh’s people. She is owner and publisher of Training Sons to Be Men, and Training Daughters, Teaching Wives. You can also read encouraging home school articles and more about the Dixon family at Walking Therein.